Psychology of Self Love Emotionally healthy self love would seem to be an obvious practice for all people. And I am sure most people believe their method of self care is best for them. However, men and women throughout society have been misled through a lack of training and understanding of the true psychology of self love. True mental health and personal love can only be known through the power of knowing one's self and living life at soul level. This is not a religious activity. The soul is an innate aspect of the total human being. Just like electricity in a wire, the soul is the power that activates the body, for neither can serve its purpose without the other. Most people I run into in my life seem to live according to the precepts of their personality. If you ask them who they are, they quickly list off their occupation, hobbies, relationships and body quirks. What they don't seem to realize is that these aspects are fleeting at best and definitely subject to change at any moment. When a person perceives themselves in this manner, they are externalizing their self. This causes an inability to truly know and therefore love themselves, for how can you love something you do not know? The love they feel is based on anything but their true self. In my book What Your Mom And Dad Didn't Know they Were Teaching You, I place a great deal of emphasis on the need for each individual to let go of their identification with the external world. In order to truly know one's self and therefore truly self love, one needs to place themselves in a state of detachment from the outer world so they can feel their own inner self, the feeling of "being" within their own body. This is not a new dimension of understanding but more a return to the way we were built before the ego got head job. The slogan of my book is: We were born in safety, then trained out of it. If you look at a young child, you see the innocence of their truth. They know and love themselves because they have not learned otherwise. Similarly, if you watch a martial arts master, this person will demonstrate the same characteristic. They both know the feeling of being one with themselves. Now is the time for each of us to return to the world of true safety, the world of basing our love for ourselves on the knowing of the inner self. It is the only way we can ever know the true depth of love. In this manner, the psychology of self love is an understanding of the positive force that anchors our life in the universal energy of all rather than the limited energy of the ego. When a person's life is anchored in the inner self, life's external distractions create a less traumatic emphasis on the mental/emotional bodies. Life is full of situations and will be until we pass on, however, they can be interacted with in a more enjoyable and less threatening manner simply by realizing that they do not have to jeopardize our perception of self and our worthiness as a human being just because they happened. Life happens. We have the ability to choose how we play in it. By anchoring ourselves in the essence of our inner self, the psychology of self love becomes a simple knowing of the feeling of who we are as an infinite being.